Bf Is On Dating Sites And Posting Ads On Craigslist..?
i love my bf very much, and we had been together for 15 months. we live together. i feel that he is the love of my life, and i want to marry him. we are sexually active (i did everything he asked me).. but my bf has been on dating sites and looking at porn a lot. i dont mind that he watches porn (sometimes he even watches porn while i’m around him at home), but the fact that he is on dating sites really bothers me. i feel like he wants to look else where, and maybe he has lost interest in me.. 
i am very disappointed..
i also found that he posted a couple ads on craigslist, trying to find someone to “play” with while i’m not around, and with no strings attached.. i confronted him and told him to stop posting sexual ads, and talked to him about him being on dating sites.
he said he was sorry, and didn’t know what he was doing.. he said he was bored.. he just wanted to see people’s reaction, and never replied or hooked up with any girls. he said he has no intention of making me upset.. he was sad, and said that he was sorry to me, and told me that he’ll never do it again..
after this incident.. he stopped for awhile, but then i noticed again recently, that he created a profile on a sexual dating site, looking for discrete sexual dates..
i respect him, and i love him very much.. but he keeps on breaking my heart by doing things that this.. we spend a lot of time together whenever we can.. and he is sweet, caring, and thoughtful.. it is hard for me to believe that he has the intention of wanting to cheat on me..
i did so much for him.. but i’m shattered and disappointed, and have lost a great amount of trust.. i’m not sure what i should do now.. please tell me, how should i deal with this problem?
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you need to leave him. no one deserves that kind of treatment
He will continue to say he’s never acted on it..but, I guarantee he is full of it. If he can’t keep off the dating or sex ads, HE WILL CHEAT. don’t be naive. he’s is just gauging reactions, until he gets the offer to hook up…then it’s on. Move on. Good luck.
how on earth can you respect this guy? he clearly does not respect you. you deserve so much better. i think it’s time to move on. he sounds like a loser. you’re only setting yourself up for trouble if you stay with him. and if i were you i would recommend getting checked for STD’s.
Leave now. You confronted him, he did it again. That is one more chance than he should have had.
I think the more you forgive his behavior the more he’ll challenge the limits. You may respect him but it doesn’t sound like it’s mutual. Sorry but if he’s bored after 15 mos, life does not get any easier when you’re married. Sounds like it’s doomed. You forgave him once and it’s hard to believe he “didn’t know what he was doing” especially since he was able to do it again. I say respect yourself and don’t accept poor behavior like this, you should feel that you deserve the best for yourself and this can’t be the best for you or you wouldn’t ask what to do. Be secure in yourself and you’ll get what you want and not settle for any less.
You’re boyfriend is looking for someone to have sex with. If I was you, then I would set up phony account and bait him and set him up. When you go for the sting though, make sure you say to him that you will meet him at said cafe/bar/place and then just wait and see if he goes there.
That really sucks. It’s over. He is not a good guy :O( and if you were to marry him, you’d be in for a lifetime of cheating. You either allow that, or you leave. There is no other way to “deal” with this. You cant change who he is, and how he behaves :O(. There is nothing you can do to make him stop doing this. He believes it is ok to do it, as long as he gets away with it. I know you’re shattered, and I’m sure you dont want to go so far as to leave him, but it’s the only smart thing to do. You have to understand that if you dont, you are accepting a life of being cheated on. There is no maybe.